Someone's famous words:
"In this profession, you're likely to lose three things - your friends, your family and your health."
I've heard it many times before, and am feeling it more and more these days.
When people invite you, they expect you not to show. When people think of inviting you, they end up not, because they assume you're busy. When people don't even think of inviting you, they've forgotten about you.
While I really appreciate the friends who understand how unpredictable my work is and don't give me a hard time, I also thank god for the friends that DO give me a hard time, because they remind me that I can make a better effort at keeping them as friends. (Of course, the prerequisite being the fact that we are close friends.)
Although practically famous for being so mild mannered, I almost hung up on an old friend who pretty much slapped me a couple of times through the phone this evening. But instead, I cut the conversation short and got a cup of tea. In the kitchen, I ran into a coworker that covers the Criminal Investigation Bureau and repeated those famous words to her. She said, "It can't be helped. That's how our job is. So what we end up doing is meeting up with our friends around 23h00 at a bar or something. If we have work the next day, we just tough it out the next day. 就拼了啊." "Wow, those crime reporters are tough," I thought. So I decided to call the friend back to see if we can meet later tomorrow night. 跟他拼了.